What To Be Aware Of On Single Awareness Day

From here on out, can we all stop referring to Valentine’s Day as Single Awareness Day? Seriously, stop wallowing around in self-pity and start being proud that you’re single. There’s literally nothing wrong with you.  

It could be that you’re not ready to date someone because you have other priorities to take care of first, or you just haven’t found the right person yet. Both reasons are totally fine, so please, don’t take it out on the happy couples this year. Instead, keep it positive and remind yourself of all of the benefits that come with being single and 100% aware.

You Don’t Need To Be In A Relationship To Be “Complete”

The people who enter your life may complement it in certain ways, but they will never complete it.

That feeling of being complete comes from within. Stop looking for happiness in a partner and start bettering your life for you, and you alone. Soon you’ll figure out what makes you feel truly complete without the presence of another person. 

Being In A Relationship Doesn’t Equal Happiness

If you are ever feeling sad about being single, remind yourself of this every single time.

Sure, the happy couples on the internet may seem like soulmates or the ultimate “power couples” (vomit), but honestly, you’re only seeing that one aspect of their relationship. Reminder: They are only showing you the great things about their relationship, not the arguments or pet peeves they deal with on a daily basis. 

Think about the last relationship you were in. Were you 100% over the moon happy when you were with that person? Probably not. Find your happiness elsewhere because not only will it be more rewarding, it also won’t be dependent on another person who can rip that so-called happiness away from you at any given moment. 

Being In A Rush To Find Someone Will Only Make Things Worse

Only fools rush in.

Falling in love is stupid. Point blank. Finding someone and developing a relationship with that person over time is the way to go. Instead of rushing the process, and hoping to find that special someone as soon as possible, enjoy it and laugh at all of the stupid things that happen along the way.

It will be a more enjoyable journey, and you’ll be able to better appreciate your next relationship if you take the time to slow down and experience the dating scene (as much as it may suck at times).

There Is Absolutely Nothing Wrong With Being Single

All the single ladies, put your hands up!

Worrying about what other people are doing won’t make you a better person, and relying on someone else to make you happy won’t make you any happier. Having that single status is a chance to breathe a fresh breath of air and enjoy a life full of fewer responsibilities and fewer worries.

Savor this season of romance with chocolates and flowers and fall in love with the most important person around, you!

How To Not F*CK Up Valentine’s Day In Three Easy Steps

Ahhhh Valentine’s Day. The guaranteed one day of the year where society reminds single people that they most definitely are single and alone.

Sure, it may suck being single, but imagine being in a relationship where your significant other doesn’t make you feel special on Valentine’s Day. 

First off, dump that person (LOL but really).

Secondly, be sure to drop hints about how fast February 14th is approaching.

It’s super easy to buy flowers or some stupid chocolates, yet somehow people still manage to f*ck even that up. So to help you out and prevent you from having another argument with your partner, follow these three simple steps.

Step One: Communicate With Your Partner

What is your partner’s language of love? Do they enjoy receiving gifts or would they rather spend quality time with you on Valentine’s Day? This is the time for you to figure it out, and figure it out fast!

If you know how your partner gives and receives love, then you should have no problem knowing whether you should buy flowers or make a nice dinner. 

(Pro Tip: Do both!)

If they absolutely hate the idea of receiving chocolates or some other kind of heart-shaped item, be sure to find another way to make them feel special. 

You don’t have to have anything officially planned in this step of the process, but in your mind, have a couple of ideas on how to go above and beyond in even the simplest of ways.

Step Two: Don’t Wait Until The Last Minute

So you’ve decided your partner’s language of love, good for you!

The first step is easy because it involves zero planning. Step two is a little bit more complicated because you actually have to do something.

And as you can imagine, this is the part where people start to screw up.

If you know in advance that you’d like to go out for a nice dinner, be sure to make those reservations at least two weeks before the big day. Do not, I repeat, do not wait until the day before to start making plans. If you do, you’ll quickly notice that every place in town is either fully booked or sold out for the evening and you’ll be out of luck. 

This year, make your plans early and dedicate some time to actually making the day special (since there’s a good chance you don’t make anything really special the other 364 days out of the year).  

Did you know that scheduling a flower or chocolate delivery in late January can sometimes be cheaper than if you were to wait literally 24 hours before? Be smart, be an adult, and don’t let Valentine’s Day creep up on you like it has in the past. 

Step Three: Spend Quality Time Together

This is a no-brainer, yet many people get so bogged down with their daily lives that they forget to make quality time a top priority.  

Get back to what made the two of you special and have fun being alone together. Don’t forget to turn off all of your electronics and just get back to the basics of your relationship (or get busy, whatever you decide). 

Although Valentine’s Day may seem like a Hallmark holiday, use it as a reminder to love all of the people you have in your life and be sure to love that special someone as well.

3 Things That Will Prevent You From Having A One-Night Stand

I’m normally not the type of girl who likes to sleep around, and I’m definitely not the type of girl who goes out to a bar in order to bring someone home, but when about to move to a different state in a matter of days, I figured I had nothing left to lose but my virginity (kidding of course).

My friend pushed me to talk to this very attractive guy at the bar and the rest of it kind of fell into place.

“We had a connection, we were both single, and most importantly, we both weren’t doing anything (or anyone else) later that night.” 

So how can one screw up something that seems like such a done deal after you’ve both agreed to meet you back at your place? If you do any, or all of the things below, just know that you’re pretty much preventing yourself from getting laid.

You Don’t Have A Place To Get It On

You don’t need to have a lavish king-size bed or live in a super nice downtown apartment in order to have sex (although it definitely doesn’t hurt), but you do need to have some kind of place where you can bring someone back. This place also needs to be comfortable enough to where someone would want to open up more (and yes, in that kind of way).

Don’t just assume that a friend’s couch or someone’s car is going to be your ticket to pound town. If you want to have sex, have an acceptable place for it. Not that people haven’t had sex on couches or in cars, but please, have a plan in place before you invite someone back. 

You Aren’t Prepared For Safe Sex

Not having a place to have sex won’t necessarily ruin your chances for having a one-night stand, but forgetting a condom more than likely will. Whether you’ve talked to someone for 5 hours or 5 minutes, at the end of the day, this person doesn’t know your sexual history, and most importantly, you don’t know theirs.

I know, I know, but what if she’s on birth control? Still, even if one of you is on birth control, it still won’t be enough to protect you both from STIs. Do yourself a favor and stock up on condoms or carry one with you in case of emergency.

Complain About Not Getting Laid Because You’re Lacking The Reasons Above

LOL because complaining will help salvage the situation? No, no it won’t.

It’s more than likely your fault for not having a bed to have sex in and not having condoms to have sex with. Stop blaming the other person for not wanting to sleep with you and start blaming yourself for your failed attempt at a one-night stand.

Hopefully, you will take this failure of an experience and learn from it. The next time you plan to bring someone home with hopes of fooling around be more prepared.

Best of luck!

I Deleted All Of My Dating Apps For 3 Months, Here’s What I Learned

If you’ve ever been on a dating app, you know that it’s a hot mess out there. Some people are looking for relationships while others are just down to hit it and quit it. After extended periods of time swiping left and right, it can become a pity party of “I’m never going to find anyone” mixed in with “everyone sucks and I’m dying alone,” which is why I decided to delete all of my dating apps to gain a new perspective on what it’s like to be a single twenty-something.

Here’s what I learned (and learned to love):

I Learned The Importance Of Free Time

I’m the type of person who always plans to go somewhere or to do something (or even someone). After I stopped focusing on going out on dates and trying to find the “next best guy,” I realized that dating took up a lot of the time I could have spent hanging out with friends or binge watching a popular Netflix series.

It’s not that dating can’t be fun; it’s that sitting in my pajamas and eating ice cream feels so much better!

I Started Focusing On Myself

While on dating apps, I felt like a lot of my experience included second-guessing if my profile would attract the right kind of person or wondering if my punchy one-liners would be enough to encourage the first date. It takes a lot of effort to get out there and date complete strangers on the internet, and when I stopped, I was able to take a step back and look at the big picture things I wanted to accomplish in my life.

I Became More Confident

Since I wasn’t out there in the cyber world trying to find a potential mate, I started approaching men in real life (I know, what a concept right!?!) more than ever before. It was intimidating at first, but once I learned that guys were shocked by the fact that a girl was making the first move, it became a challenge to meet new guys out and about.

I Learned To Love Again

I’m a firm believer that in order to love someone else, you need to love yourself first. Not that I ever struggled with self-love before this experience, but getting rid of the annoying messages and know that I wasn’t constantly being judged on all of the dating apps really freed my mind from all of that clutter.

I was able to look at myself in the mirror without any makeup (and a face full of blemishes) and still feel beautiful. I was also able to appreciate the little things throughout my day that made me smile.

If you’ve thought about going on a dating app detox, I suggest you try it for at least a month and see how you feel. The worst thing that will happen is that you save time and energy by not going out on dates and you catch up on your favorite Netflix series.

What Women Need To Do More Of In Bed

Life is too short to not get everything you want and then some.

Ladies, the same thing applies to us when we start to get in the mood and want to turn on our “freak in the sheets” persona. There’s a good chance a lot of women out there have been raised to be polite and sophisticated individuals, but today, we all need to stop being so damn polite.

It’s great to act ladylike most of the time, but our strategies in bed need to change!

The answer to having better sex and having an overall better time with your partner is really quite simple; use more of your mouth (but not in that way).

Speak The F*ck Up

That’s right, you heard me, vocalize what you like and don’t like. No one wants to have sex with a moaning starfish, and no one wants to waste his or her time fooling around without it resulting in some kind of orgasm.

If your partner is doing something he thinks you enjoy, but you’re really just counting all of the dots on the popcorn ceiling while he’s going to town, say something about it or insist that you move on to another sexual activity that will put his work to better use. Stop wasting your time!

It’s Not Just About You

Well, it is, but I’m thinking about him right now.

Just imagine for a second that you and the person you are with are having okay or less than okay sex, and then the two of you break up (not over the sex, but I wouldn’t blame you). Not only have you lied to him about how amazing he is after every sexcapade, but now you’ve boosted his ego and made him think that he’s freaking King Kong in the bed.

Although he might not impact your life anymore, you’re essentially screwing over the next woman he meets from ever being satisfied because she more than likely won’t open up and tell him he has some improvements to make.

We might not always like every single person we’ve slept with at the end of the day, but please do the rest of society a favor and let the person you’re sleeping with know how they can improve in the bedroom.

This way he can get some more practice in before the two of you go your separate ways, and you won’t continue the cycle of bad sex on to someone else.

It’s good karma, I swear (and hopefully better sex)!

You’re Grown

As a grown ass woman, you should feel no shame in telling your partner or even a one-night stand where and how you want to be touched. There is no shame in liking what you like and you should (and will) enjoy every second of it. Stop being afraid to offend someone or embarrass yourself while being open about your sexual desires.

It can’t always be his fault as to why you didn’t get off.

If you didn’t open your mouth and tell him to do more of this and less of that, then it’s your own damn fault.