Valentine’s Day is a week away, and for some, that means stress eating chocolate and loads of self-loathing. Stop right there!
Not that chocolate isn’t delicious, but it will be a lot cheaper and you will indulge in less of it if you just sit back and wait until February 15th. When it comes to all of that self-loathing, take a step back and think about why you are so unhappy on this Hallmark holiday.
Do you wish you were in a meaningful relationship?
Are you hoping to be surrounded by love?
Chances are, you already have both and just haven’t been paying attention. Sure, it might suck to be single when what you really want is a relationship. Everything in life happens for a reason and when the time is right, everything else will fall into place.
Instead of hating the entire 24 hours that is Valentine’s Day, celebrate it by doing a few of these things.
Spend Time With Friends
Call up your homies right now!
I know it sounds silly, but spending time with friends who are also single make the day a lot more fun. Plan a big Galentine’s Day party filled with dinner and drinks or have it a little more lowkey with yoga pants, a bottle of wine and a couple of good movies that make you laugh (don’t watch the sad sappy love movies, they will make you hate yourself even more).
Give A Gift To Someone You Love
Giving is always better than receiving (well…not always, but you get the point).
Even taking the time to buy a couple dozen flowers for friends or making some homemade cards can lighten the mood of not having a plus one. Also, you won’t have to worry about getting the perfect gift because they’re your friends and they love you regardless.
If you have some extra time between now and Valentine’s Day, do you!
Go get a pedicure, go buy those shoes you’ve been staring at online or just buy something to remind yourself that you’re worth it.
Yes, you read that correctly.
There’s nothing wrong with owning a couple of items that make you feel good sexually. Consider adding some toys to your nightstand immediately. Whether it’s a new vibrator, dildo, handcuffs, or whatever, chances are your supply cabinet is probably old (and crusty) and you are overdue for an upgrade.
If you aren’t planning to buy any sex toys in the future, find other ways to release that “being single” stress.
Focus On The Wonderful Things You Do Have
So you aren’t in a relationship, big freaking deal.
More than likely you have a roof over your head, clothes that you like wearing, a career that inspires you, and the love and support from family and friends. Stay positive on Valentine’s Day. Keep focusing on the parts of your life that make you the happiest and remember that the best is yet to come.
You might not have someone this year, but that’s okay! Love yourself first and that loving relationship will follow.